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small scale botnet attack

We came under DDOS attack by a mostly-south-Asian botnet today; around 3,000 unique IPs, which is not that large on the scale of things. Probably an advanced hobbyist rather than a professional, given that we could sort it out and get back online as quickly as we did.

Furthest west IP was in Poland; furthest east, China. Southernmost probably Thailand.

Anyway, if you were trying to reach this morning’s blog post, that’s what happened; give it another go. We should be fine now. If you can’t anything on the website and are reading this via an echo, let me know; I probably blocked you accidentally too.

sochi olympics

I haven’t, for a long while, given much of a rat’s ass about the Olympic Games. But now that the IOC has ordered GBLT athletes to stay silent about Russia’s anti-gay pogrom that extends even to them, and the Americans are telling their team to comply(!) with the Russian anti-LBGT laws, I now do care.

I am now actively against the entire project. Don’t move the Olympics; cancel them.

It won’t happen, of course. The very idea is ludicrous. Despite its redeeming elements, it’s always been deeply corrupt and frankly kind of horrible as soon as you scratch the surface. And god damn, if this is how they’re gonna roll? To hell with the whole project. Burn it down and start over.

a reduction in sfwadenfrude

Oh my, it seems that SFWA has finally rid itself of, well, they don’t say, but we all know which white supremacist it would be, don’t we? I don’t see how they could’ve done anything else, after he used SFWA official channels to promote an overtly-racist screed against another member of the organisation.

The fact – again, just plain fact – that he’s a white Christian male supremacist who explicitly states that only white Christian men are capable of civilisation and must therefore rule everyone else? That’s just icing on this cake.

Oh, look, Scalzi seems to be in a musical mood all of a sudden. Huh, funny. I also a song coming to mind for some reason; there’s no studio version yet, but The Mighty IF posted some audience video from a Toronto house concert, that’s a start…

gatekeeping and recourse

In pushback and misandry, I promised to post something important and useful to guys fighting misogyny. This is your turn.

Men who try to push women out of fandoms, and out of computers, out of sciences, out of wherever; when they get misogynistic in front of you – what do they want to see happen?

Well, they want the woman to be angry, or upset, or embarrassed. That’s the goal. They want to express dominance or power, and the woman to go away. They get off on that.

But that’s only half of it.

They’re looking for your endorsement – the male endorsement – just as much. They’re excluding the designated “other,” and a big reason they’re trying to do that is to improve their group bond with you. They want confirmation and endorsement.

And it can be really hard to step up and say, “Hey, don’t be a misogynist asshole.” I get that. Most geek guys are pretty introverted and it’s hard to be the one “starting something.” As a result, much of this goes unchallenged.

But you know what it’s not so hard to do?

Frown.

Don’t laugh, even nervously; don’t smile; don’t make a pleasant face; don’t look away; don’t ignore it.

Just frown. Deny them the endorsement they seek.

That’s all. Frown, and frown clearly, and where they can see it. Make a negative expression. Not sarcastic; not even pained; no laughing, even if you intend it as mocking: it calls for a plain, old, extremely unambiguous, frown. You don’t even have to make eye contact if you don’t want to.

Frown.

Frowning denies the group bond affirmation they’re seeking. The reward is reduced – or, hopefully, outright missing. It may even make them feel bad, thanks to mirror neurons.

And the best part? They can’t even complain about it, because if they do…

…then they’re the ones “starting something.” And that gives you the advantage in whatever happens next.

It’s a small thing, but it’s a meaningful thing. I didn’t invent this; I got it from Stetson Kennedy. But I can’t use it, at least, not here; it’s the kind of thing that only people seen as in-group can do, because upset from the people they’re assaulting are the point. They want that.

But, just as much, they want that confirmation – even the neutrality which counts as acceptance – from you, and anyone else they see as a peer. They want bond confirmation from “people,” who matter, as opposed to “others,” whose anger or hurt they seek.

At very least, deny them that confirmation.

Frown.
 
 
This post is part of a series on sexism in racism in geek culture. Master post here.


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pushback and misandry

In response to complaints about sexism, you will hear a lot of complaints about how unreasonable and ‘misandrist’ women who complain about sexism are. I want to talk about that.

Last week, I had a couple of run-ins with people who were reacting to complaints about sexism and harassment. The first was with Ben Kuchera over at Penny Arcade Report, who posted an article that – as I said in one of my tweets to him – I actually mostly liked. But I took issue with an apparent assertion that gender has nothing to do with online harassment. I wasn’t sure he meant that – tho’ it turned out he did.

He was clearly expecting responses on the topic, and said that snide and nasty comments would result in Twitter blocks:


Fair enough. After not all that long, he makes these comments, saying he’s being attacked along race and gender lines:

…and that he’s up for debate, but not with people who call him “privileged cis scum:”

So he says he’s totally up for talking to people, but is blocking people who attack him along race or gender, or who are snide and/or nasty. Totes reasonable… on the surface.

Now, I don’t know all the people he blocked, but I do know one thing: I was one of those people. He blocked me, lumping me in with all those people allegedly calling him “privileged cis scum.”

I present to you our entire conversation, in screencaps. I’m building evidence for an argument and this is relevant, so bear with me. @AdamGoodallYes had taken issue with Ben’s assertion in a sentence that gender has nothing to do with online harassment. Ben had responded that picking one sentence out of an entire article to take issue isn’t reasonable. That’s where I jumped in. Read along:

Note that I walked away here. I was willing to be done, because it looked like this was going nowhere; further, I want to make it clear that I’m fully aware I have no right to have a conversation with this guy. I’ve said my piece and said goodbye. But then he comes back to me, a few minutes later, so we pick it up again:

Do you see what happened there? When I try to start providing data that is directly relevant to the conversation, he blocks me, as – presumably – someone attacking him on race and/or gender.

Apparently because I’m providing data he doesn’t like. That’s what it looks like from here, anyway.

Hold on to that thought.

That same week over on Facebook, a Norwescon friend of mine linked to this Tumblr post about nuTrek, and the way that nuTrek has eliminated or written out women. The post consists entirely of facts, except for one observation at the end.

The first commenter – someone I don’t know and won’t name here, but the post is public – called it all “entirely incidental,” and declared that people “went looking” for this to complain about it. I disagreed, strongly, siting the 17%-is-seen-as-balanced rule, and noting – as I have before – that this stuff really matters in real life.

His response is to “reject [my] misandry,” and declare that there are no facts (only “conjecture”) in the article/blog post. After getting called badly enough on that, he goes back to his own Facebook page, where he crows to his friends that:


Nothing pleases me more than listening to a ‘feminist’ spout misandry as a defense for an already flimsy argument, only to find out that said ‘feminist’ clearly didn’t read the ORIGINAL article about the issue, but only read the ‘Cliff Notes’ version on someone else’s blog post about said article.

…an “original article” that nobody linked to, including the Tumblr blogger; that nobody – including him – talked about, and which is not linked to… anywhere, honestly, that I found. I didn’t look that hard; I will presume, in an excess of fairness, that this article actually exists.

But notice what fundamentally happened here, again. Someone was presented with data he didn’t like, data that supports the idea that sexism is real, data that is inarguable, but leads him to conclusions he doesn’t like…

…and that’s misandry. That’s attacking him, because of his gender.

A lot like Ben Kuchera, above.

And that’s just last week.

So here we have two cases of facts being declared misandry; these facts about sexism are gender-biased attacks against men, by “so-called feminists.”

Every time you hear someone talk about “misandry,” – or worse yet, “humourless feminist bitches” – I ask you: think about these. What are the odds, do you think, that the next time you hear it, it’s just as much complete bullshit as it was here?

I’d say the odds are pretty damn good.
 
 


In response to comments elsewhere, a followup post: gatekeeping and recourse.

sudden radio silence

Sorry I’ve gone silent – I’ve literally been spending most of my time the last four days cleaning cat pee. I wish I was exaggerating, but, well, I’m not. Fred is having issues of some sort and, well, yeah. I have things I want to post but literally no time to write them – it’s 12:45AM, I have a morning appointment (and then an afternoon appointment), and I just got done treating a new section of carpet and starting another load of pee laundry.

Hopefully things will be back to something at least vaguely like normal soon.

Separately, I’m four episodes in on Night Vale. It’s very odd and rather good; it’s kind of like if AM Coast to Coast was really a local station and actually, you know, real. Funny and a bit creepy. Enjoy.

ignore me

Updating the link stuff at the bottom of posts, and seeing how that works.

eta: Oh, I think that’s much better. Plus, I finally got rid of the Fanbridge button. I haven’t had an account there for a year. Oops. But does it update with post edits? Let’s find out!

exclusion

A friend of mine, from Europe, writes and draws a lot of comics. He’s small-press, indie-publish, self-publish, he’s worked for some of the smaller comic presses. Some of his books are pretty political. Fair disclosure: I tend to agree with his politics, tho’, of course, not always.

He wrote recently that he’d got a review of one of his political zines, from a woman who also publishes a political ‘zine, who agreed with his politics in general, and liked the work in many ways, but decried the sexist nature of his mostly-male cast. He didn’t agree with that part, at all, and asked what I thought.

What I think is: she’s absolutely right. Oh, it’s not intentional – it’s absolutely not. He lives in the States, and by US standards, he’s very progressive.

But his cast in these political zines is almost exclusively men. And that’s a big part of the problem, on a much bigger scale.

See, I was surprised to learn this summer that the average “crowd scene” in film is 83% male. 17% of a “random crowd” is women; the rest are men. Slightly less than one in five.

Further, this summer, in most markets, you could not go see a film about a woman. Of nearly 500 films released early this summer, a couple had female leads, but they were small films, and not shown in large markets. Most markets had zero.

This is a bad year – but not particularly an orders-of-magnitude-worse year. That crowd stat is accumulated over many years; it’s not new.

So what’s that mean, other than women don’t get the equity time that leads to opportunities and larger roles in film? Well, that matters itself, of course. But…

…the thing is…

…humans learn by storytelling.

Also by doing, but story is really important. Story – and story “sense,” or “coherence” – trumps facts, soundly. This has been shown over and over again, in study after study: known facts can be overwritten by coherent story, even if that story is flatly false.

So what does an “average crowd” being four men for every one woman mean, in our big stories?

Fortunately, people research this. Here are some examples. It means that men see a crowd of one-third women – a crowd wherein there are literally two men for every one woman – and think it’s “mostly women,” despite the fact that it is mostly men. And if it’s a crowd they think should be “gender-balanced” – in reality, overwhelmingly men – they’ll react against that, in ways small and large, and weird, with enemies lists, harassment, and in the largest cases, law.

This carries over into classrooms, too, and that’s important. The numbers are strikingly similar; men expect to dominate the discussion, and in that, think it’s equal, and fair. Recent studies I’ve seen sited (but not read firsthand) have shown that if discussion and student time in a mixed-gender classroom gets anywhere close to equal – if women get half the time of the discussion and the teacher…

…male students start to complain that they are actively discriminated against. And the horrible part is that the whole class does better if this doesn’t happen, or is kept in control by the teacher; women students speaking in class improves all performances. It’s not a zero sum game – but it’s treated as one.

And I don’t think I need to point out that this isn’t merely an academic matter.

Now, I know some of you guys reading this are mad at this point, but this has been shown enough times you should deal with it. These are numbers; these are the points at which these phenomena repeat, across environments. That 17% number keeps repeating – according to one story I’m citing below, 17% of cardiac surgeons are women, 17% of tenured professors are women…

…just like in those crowd scenes.

And when the number rises above that, men complain about being crowded out, and, eventually, complain about being discriminated against – long before equality is reached – and start harassing and pushing women out.

Not all men, of course. But enough. Some, actively; others, just by going along, or just not saying anything, even if they are discomforted by it. It’s easy to do that when it doesn’t affect you.

And I have to wonder, how much of that goes back to that expectation that’s set when just 17% of the people in our biggest, brightest stories are women; that “male” is the character default – just as is hetersexual and white – and that to be anything else requires a reason to be that. Humans learn by telling stories.

Seanan McGuire wrote last month about a fan asking why one of her minor characters was gay – essentially, why wasn’t he the default? What was the reason for him being gay?

Essential to this question is the assumption that this character needed an excuse to be there, in the eye of the fan. Being gay without a reason for it actually bothered the reader enough that they had to ask. They weren’t upset; but it raised a flag, in their brain.

And that’s because straight white men can be anything, in a story. But queers, women, and people of colour? They better have a reason, or their presence – their right to be there, to exist – is questioned. And pushed against.

And I think we all know how those types encounters tend to work out.

Particularly this week.


eta: TheMarySue.com has a highly relevant article on the lack of female villains (and supervillains). All I can say is 1: yep and 2: DOIN’ MY BEST TO FIX THAT!

 

This post is part of a series of articles on sexism and racism in geek culture.

Many numbers from this article are source from NPR, particularly those numbers related to women in film, particularly from the story “Hollywood Needs More Women.” Others are from a variety of papers I’ve scanned the last few months, but not kept records of reading, because my memory for these things is pretty good. If you want more than that, do your own research; it’s not hard to find.

Mind you – it could be worse. Whites start moving out of neighbourhoods when more than 8% of their neighbours are black. That’s why some people of colour with options are getting the hell out of Dodge. At least women get 17% before the pushback gets too mean.

orson scott card can blow it out his ass

James Nicoll reports on his blog that Orson Scott Card has declared marriage equality ‘moot’ and asks for ‘tolerance’ from ‘victors’ – oh, and please don’t boycott his movie. Bleeding Cool asks whether it’s enough.

No. It’s not. Honestly, I’m shaking a little with rage. That stinking S.O.B., whose legions and allies both active and advantageous have worked throughout my entire life to make me a non-person, who has advocated that I should be illegal and in jail and worked towards that goal, whose nationally-organised well-funded partners have actively persecuted me my entire life… who’ve harassed me, who’ve sent anonymous rape and death threats, who’ve assaulted me, sent me to hospital… I’ve sidetracked career, I’ve sidelined huge chunks of my life, I’ve spent – as they used to say – blood and treasure in fighting off these bastards… and knowing full well that they’d make me a nonperson again in a heartbeat if they could…

…the most we get out of this duplicitous steaming bile is “moot”ness and a request for “tolerance” (and don’t boycott my movie)?

Seriously?

Fuck you, Orson. Fuck. You.
 


This post is part of a collection of posts on sexism and racism in geek culture.

google+facebook=no rss

Nice little theory posted at marco.org which is very much along the lines of Facebook Destroys Everything, attributing Google’s shuttering of Reader as another step in the centralisation/corportisation of the internet, and replacing free/distributed content with corporate-owned. It’s a nice little rant, tho’ some of the commenters at jwz’s DNA Blog dispute it. You might give it a glance.

jwz also provides your advertising horror of the week: using bone sound transmission to drive ads into passenger’s heads if they try to nap by leaning against windows.

Ah, well, enough of that. We ran into the De Temps Antan. I told Eric that Anna said he’s a better bouzouki player than his brother Simon and everybody exploded. It was hilarious. Ah well, Simon can have the consolation of being hotter. XD

Here, have a phone picture from last night, of the lake from the beach of the festival. Well, of my feet in the lake, really. XD

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